Sexual
Integration
Method
The Empowering Soulful Path to Wholeness, Healing and the Depths of Sexual Pleasure
whole and healed, sexually and in all aspects of your life.”
The Sexual Integration Method will help you
Integrate — Empower — Heal — Enhance Sexual Pleasure
The Soulful Path
“Ultimately, I view the Sexual Integration Method as a Soulful path. Meaning, it is a personal journey into the depths of your Self. Stepping onto the path of being true to yourself sexually and otherwise, is like a hero’s journey. You must step into the unknown, into the depths of your being. Into the dark places no light has shown. The places where the dragons of your fear guard the treasure of your desire. The question is…and this is a deep question…what will you have to face to take your power back from these internalized aspects that resist, judge, fear or sabotage your sexual birthright? What is the power they have over you that keeps you secretive or compulsive or shut-down about your sexuality? And what will you do about it?”
The Method
What Is SIM?
Sexual Integration Method — an award-winning, peer-reviewed, non-pathologizing sexual health model.
- A sex-positive therapeutic framework designed to help individuals claim and integrate their personal sexuality into their overall psychological, emotional and relational life.
- An intentional process for understanding, accepting, and embodying authentic sexual desire and pleasure.
- A personalized path toward sexual honesty, relational integrity, and personal empowerment.
- A non-pathologizing sexual-health model that works with sexuality as an integral, meaningful, psychological somatic and emotional force — not a problem to suppress or hide.
- A dual process that explores both erotic potential and the fear, shame, trauma, and sex-negative internal conflicts that inhibit authentic sexual expression.
- An integration-based approach combining clinical, depth, positive and transpersonal psychology, somatic awareness, imaginal/depth practices, and conscious self-reflection.
- A method for transforming secrecy, compulsivity, shame, or internal conflict into clarity, agency, and embodied presence.
- A guided personal journey toward sexual wholeness — aligning desire, identity, relationships, and personal values.
Winner of the
Journal of Sex and Relationship Therapy’s Outstanding Article of 2025 Award!
Thank you for this important contribution to the field of psychosexual and relationship therapy.
— SRT Editorial Board
The Journey
Sexual Healing
Sexual Healing begins with the conscious intention to joyously embrace your authentic sexual nature and untangle the embedded fear, shame, trauma, compulsivity, and sex-negative internalized judgements that inhibit its fullest expression.
Is SIM Right for Me?
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You are tired of hiding parts of yourself or living a double life sexually or emotionally.
You want to be more honest and sexually aligned in your intimate relationships.
You feel disconnected from or conflicted about your authentic sexual desires.
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You struggle with shame, secrecy, or fear surrounding your sexuality.
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You feel divided between who you are sexually and who you believe you are expected to be.
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You want to explore sexuality consciously rather than through compulsion, avoidance, or repression.
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You sense your sexuality holds meaning, creativity, or vitality that has not yet been fully expressed.
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You want to reconcile your sexual desire with your values, relationships, spirituality, or identity.
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You are ready to examine both your sexual pleasure and the fear, shame or trauma that may limit it.
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You are willing to engage in personal reflection and guided psychological work rather than seeking quick fixes.
Where Do I Begin?
Work with me 1 on 1!
If you already feel you are ready to begin your Sexual Integration journey and would like my one-on-one support along the way, click here for your options on my client appointment page.
Otherwise a good start would be…
Take the FREE Sexual Integration Method Sexual Assessment Tool
The SIMSAT is designed to help you…
- Open You to Unimagined Sexual Ecstasy
- Deepen Intimacy in Your Relationships
- Resolve Fear, Shame, Trauma, Compulsion
- Help You Avoid Erotic Mismatches in Long-Term Relationships
- Create More Successful Relationship Outcomes!
The Sexual Integration Method offers this FREE personal assessment tool to help you look deeper into the nature of your sexual desires, their history and how internalized fear, shame, sex-negative beliefs or trauma may still resist your authentic sexual expression.
The SIMSAT was shaped from my academic sex research insights, gathered from over 10, 000 participants overall of the Personal Erotic Myth Survey plus my 20+ years working with clients on their sexual concerns.
The SIMSAT offers you a structured but flexible, personalized format to help you assess where you are currently in your sexual journey. It is designed to help you better understand what you want …and don’t want, and create an intentional pathway to get there, step by step.
Once completed we’ll perform an AI supported meta analysis of your responses and provide your current Sexual Integration Score. The overall SI score is derived from combining two other scores derived from your answers – your Sexual Authenticity Score and Sexual Authenticity Incongruence Score.
What is a Personal Erotic Myth?
In the SIM model, a PEM is an internal, inherent psychological dimension of the sexual psyche. For those with a PEM, it’s like a storehouse that contains the who, what, where and how nuances natural to them that weave together within their sexual fantasies.
The PEM is like a compelling, epic erotic story that when brought to life can drive one to orgasm or other deep erotic state.
Not everyone’s sexuality may be held by a PEM, but if you are driven by particular sexual fantasies and certain go-to genres of porn for sexual pleasure, you may find the PEM concept helpful to understanding your inherent sexual nature.
The original Discover Your PEM Survey was an independent research study that I converted to an IRB approved sex research survey in 2022. The survey was designed to gather data on the prevalence and nature of sexual fantasy, sexual authenticity, sexual inhibition, the impacts of shame, fear and trauma and more.
The survey is now closed and the data is being used for various peer-reviewed sex research papers my team and I are working on. The SIMSAT evolved from this prior work.
A PEM influences the erotic types you are attracted to, the style, nuances and intensity of engagement and your personal frequency or rhythmn of desire.
The core elements of your PEM distinguish what turns you on from what does not. These elements are activated through arousal from fantasizing, self-pleasure or partnered sex.
Normal Is Personal — Not a Top-Down Diagnosis
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“I consider it normal for you to embrace your personal sexuality as your birthright. You have every right to claim, experience, and celebrate it in a conscious, consensual way. No government, law, religion, psychology, family, partner, spouse nor anyone has any business interfering with your ‘normal’ sexual behavior. Your authentic sexual expression is yours.”
— Galen Fous MTP
Galen Fous, MTP
Founder of the Sexual Integratiom Method
Psychotherapist, Sex Researcher, Sex Educator · Author ·
“Imagine if you could just be Honest about how Sexual you really are.”
Founder of SIM™
Sexual Integration Method — Sex-Positive Non-Pathologizing Sexual Health Model
20+ Years Experience
Empathetic Guidance for Clients Complex Sexual Concerns
Published Author
“Decoding Your Kink” — Acclaimed Worldwide
Shame-Free Practice
Client-Centered, Kink-Affirming Approach
I believe your personal sexual nature is a meaningful, psychological, somatic, emotional and integral aspect of your wholeness — not a problem to suppress, avoid or hide.
I want to help you reclaim your sexual birthright…your right to transcendent. ecstatic erotic pleasure!
The straight forward, in-depth integration methods I developed over 20 years of practice and research has helped hundreds of people like you learn simple ways to understand and confidently express their innate, authentic sexuality.
This includes understanding the internalized cultural, religious and family belief systems that may have entangled your authentic sexual nature with shame, fear or loathing. For others it may include reclaiming personal power and self-worth that may have been lost from sexual traumas or emotional woundings growing up.
My practice offers a compassionate, non-pathologizing framework for those ready to claim their birthright to their authentic sexuality and learn to honestly share that gift with consenting partners for mutual pleasure.
10,000+
PEM Assessments
People worldwide have taken the Personal Erotic Myth Survey. It has been revised to become the client-centered Sexual Integration Method Sexual Assessment tool to help in discovering new dimensions of your authentic sexuality and what might get in the way.
Decoding Your Kink
by Galen Fous, MTP
There are some of the extraordinary relationship specialists who have read Decoding Your Kink. Kink-aware therapists, relationship educators, and sexual advocates have reviewed and recommended it as a visionary and masterful contribution to the field.
To buy this paperback or eBook version on Amazon, or to recommend it to a friend, click here to go directly to the Amazon page.
Your Path Forward
Sexuality is Your Birthright!
Your Sexuality Is Your Birthright!
Work with Galen 1 on 1
Decoding Your Kink
Galen Fous MTP
Free SIM Sexual Assesment Tool
Take a deeper look into the depths of your desire and understand what resists its full expression
Stories of Integration & Liberation
Real voices from clients, readers, and therapists who have experienced the transformative power of Sexual Integration.
★★★★★
“In our very first session, Galen told me that “healing is a choice you make.” He entered every session fully present, with a high level of integrity, basing his actions on whether they served MY greater good. He taught me to recognize and listen to the different parts of myself, and gave me a safe container to open myself up to vulnerability and fear. Now “intentions” and “boundaries,” things that were foreign and awkward to me before our sessions, are an integrated part of my life. I don’t think he always recognizes the impact he has on his clients’ lives but he changed my life for the better.”
DLA
★★★★★
“It was truly an enlightening experience for me. I felt the rituals helped me tap into my inner wisdom in order to find my own resources for healing some emotional blocks I have been experiencing for some time. I’m so grateful the work revolved around guiding us to find our own sources of empowerment in a strength based fashion, rather than trying to eliminate negative patterns or behaviors. This has helped me clear up other issues indirectly, and that’s a beautiful thing.”
Mike S
★★★★★
“Galen, a note to reiterate my gratitude for your counseling this past year. The difficult openings that I experienced under your care and expertise continue to open me further and further to joy, to sharing, to making choices in my relationships with the opposite sex. My life and path are illumined so much more definitively, consciously; my awareness and ability to remain in the Now seems exponentially increased! My experience within it has broadened into more satisfying depths and heights of sexual pleasure. Here’s to your work, and to your joy!”
S L
★★★★★
“Galen’s skill is quite astounding in his ability to help us reveal and combine widely varying aspects of our individual humanity and sexuality into a rich composite whole self. I witnessed profound, grounded and conscious revelations occur to participants throughout the workshop. It was a very potent experience for me. Highly recommended.”
Bruce B age 60
★★★★★
“I want to tell you how motivating and enriching working with you has been. Your knowledge and sensitivity on the subject helped me as a 70 year old bi-sexual man to find new courage and skills to bring to my 40 year relationship. The work helped me to continue healthy growth and communication with the person I love. The facilitation and other skills you bring into this work, are a gift to all of us fortunate enough to participate! Thank you again for sharing your many gifts!”
Dick A age 70
★★★★★
“I’ve experienced an absolutely amazing, breathtaking, transformational, life changing through my work with Galen. The insights I’ve had, the things that I’ve learned, have brought me a huge step closer towards becoming the man I am supposed to be sexually and otherwise, yet who I denied and repressed for all of my past life. I feel that my life has gotten a completely new direction now.”
David H
Your Next Step
Ready to Begin Your Journey?
Professional consultations are available for individuals seeking sexual integration and for therapists looking to incorporate kink-affirming psychology into their practice.